“Your life does not get better by chance,
it gets better by change.”
Change comes so many times over the course of our lives, it could be the small changes that happen daily in our lives, or it could be the massive change that really rock our foundations and makes us question what we know, our beliefs, friendships and values.
It is a constant I know well and have gotten comfortable with accepting, from changing jobs, towns, friends, businesses, homes and more, and I know if I didn't get comfortable and understand that through this change I will grow, I will challenge myself and I will constantly be becoming a better person, then it would break me. To know that we are constantly being challenged through change, constantly being refined going through the fires of life and to believe that we will come out a better person than the one before, gives me comfort.
It has been a learning process to realise that I accept change best when I feel secure, secure in my place in the world, company, friend circles and most of all myself. This security has been rocked a few times in the past 5 years and as I reflect of everything that has happened I am so grateful that it was rocked, that the earth moved on Feb 22nd 2011 and made me think about where I was headed, what I wanted and moved me out of security into insecurity.
Some might think that being in a place of insecurity and uncertainty is a bad place, a hard place, well it is, but it is also a place where you can challenge yourself and grow - to this I encourage everyone to ensure they are doing this. Do I wish I had pushed myself more in my younger years, at times I do. Do I wonder what if to many thoughts on the forks in the road, yes I do.
It also makes me realise I am the person I am today thanks to those decisions, those forks, that change and uncertainty, some traits still need a lot of refining and others I am quite happy with. It also makes me realise that we need those abrasive personalities to come up against us, to help with the refining process (just like the diamonds...), yes like most I don't let those personalities stay around long as they can do a lot of damage, both emotionally and mentally if you let them, but like all lessons as long as we learn from them and step through the process of insecurity into healing then we will come out the better people.
Reachout.com have an article on the 7 Tips for Dealing with Change, I won't rewrite them as they are perfectly put here and along with a Huffington Post article on 7 Things you need to know when dealing with major life changes (not sure what it is with the number 7...). These articles hold valuable detail that will remain constant that you aren't alone, make sure you ask for help and that we will grow through these experiences, all this is good for us, it is challenging, confronting and emotional but it helps us build up our resilience for what we are to face in the future.
If you are going through change there is always a listening ear here, whether in business, home life, friendships or other, we are made to be in community, build each other up and support. If you aren't being supported find those who will and remove yourself from situations where the negativity is damaging.
“The Only Thing That Is Constant Is Change" Heraclitus - So make sure we embrace it, look for the light at the end of the tunnel and lean on our support networks to help us through when the change feels to big.